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by Jeanne Safer
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  • Author:
    Jeanne Safer
  • ISBN:
    0465019404
  • ISBN13:
    978-0465019403
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  • Publisher:
    Basic Books; 1 edition (January 3, 2012)
  • Pages:
    288 pages
  • Subcategory:
    Social Sciences
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Bonds between brothers and sisters are among the longest lasting and. She explores the roots of inter-sibling woes, from siblicide in the book of Genesis to tensions in Freud’s family history.

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Safer has written seven books (and contributed an essay to an eighth). ISBN 978-0-465-01940-3. Two of her books (Beyond Motherhood and The Normal One) were Finalists for the Books for a Better Life Award for Best Self-Improvement Books of the Year. Safer's articles have appeared in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, and other publications.

The spats seem to have been passed on genetically Safer writes: All estranged siblings feel a lack of ease or intimacy in the other’s presence; they never regard the person as a friend or confidante, someone they miss o. .

The spats seem to have been passed on genetically. Safer writes: All estranged siblings feel a lack of ease or intimacy in the other’s presence; they never regard the person as a friend or confidante, someone they miss or turn to in times of joy or sorrow. Only one person she interviewed experienced a sense of reconciliation with her sibling.

Bonds between brothers and sisters are among the longest lasting and most emotionally significant of human relationships. But while 45 percent of adults struggle with serious sibling strife, few discuss it openly. Even fewer resolve it to their satisfaction.

She explores the roots of inter-sibling woes, from siblicide in the book of Genesis to tensions in Freud’s family history. Drawing on sixty in-depth interviews with adult siblings struggling with conflicts over money, family businesses, aging parents, contentious wills, unhealed childhood wounds, and blocked communication, Safer provides compassionate guidance to brothers and sisters whose relationship is broken.

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She is the author of The Normal One, Death Benefits, Beyond Motherhood, and Forgiving and Not Forgiving. She appears frequently on television and radio and lectures widely. She has written for O: The Oprah Magazine,More, the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, among other publications.

Bonds between brothers and sisters are among the longest lasting and most emotionally significant of human relationships. But while 45 percent of adults struggle with serious sibling strife, few discuss it openly. Even fewer resolve it to their satisfaction.

Molace
If you have siblings, this book will hook you from the first sentence of the introduction. It validated everything I believe about sibling relationships and parents' role in setting it up from birth.
Shadowbourne
I really valued reading Cain's Legacy. What it helped me better realize is how siblings can suffer in very toxic relationships. I felt less isolated after the reading. It's not only me with a crazy family! I gathered from my reading that lack of self and other awareness can be such an issue. My own sibling relations are very troubled. I come from a family where there was significant domestic violence, and have had a lot of really great help in therapy over the years. Reading this book further supported my 'therapy education' which has helped me to feel more compassionate to my siblings, both who suffered greatly at the hands of my parents- both my parents were physically and psychologically abusive. Both my parents were raised in such households. I feel so sad for us all knowing that these inter-generational patterns of dysfunctional behavior, are, in a sense, no-one's fault. Though my situation with one of my siblings is still very difficult, I now better accept that he suffers from many unresolved issues surrounding his childhood. He has had no therapy help in his life and is hell bent on making as much money as he can to prove his worth. Just writing that makes me want to tell him I love him and that he's a good guy. He can't hear that at this point. May be he never will. Who knows? I recommend the book to anyone who wants to gain insight and compassion into the complex and often heart-breaking world of sibling issues.
Anen
Great author I love this writer and the story line he brings
Yahm
In the most insightful and illuminating way, Dr. Jeanne Safer goes beyond analysis to provide practical, helpful advice about how to deal with - or even repair - troubled family bonds that can circumscribe and distort our lives. As in her previous books -- such as Death Benefits: How Losing a Parent can Change an Adult's Life--For the Better and The Normal One: Life with a Difficult or Damaged Sibling, among others -- Cain's Legacy is fearless in its examination of the painful possibilities of difficult sibling relationships. Dr. Safer makes transparently clear why these relationships are so complicated, why the emotions involved, rooted deep in childhood, are so often not just intense but obscured by all those explanations we all manage to weave around issues and events whose full pain or destructive force we don't want to (or can't) confront. She writes with a kind heart and a penetrating intelligence. I really can't imagine anyone not benefiting from her compassionate descriptions and analyses. I know I did.
Ichalote
Very insightful as to the complex dynamics of sibling relationships. Wish I had read this book years ago. Would have provided a blue print for behavior.
FLIDER
informative
Kegal
Very informative and enlightening
I was a little disappointed since I was hoping to love it as much as the groundbreaking The Normal One. I did not.
It seemed a bit more forced, trying to cover too much territory and not feeling as focused on any particular issue except
that siblings can have big problems! I think if you buy this book, you already know that.